Fidelity definition - 3 Crucial Factors That Predispose You to Infidelity

Have you ever wondered why infidelity is so common amongst couples? Why does it seem easier to cheat than to remain faithful? Sometimes it seems like there is an infidelity germ that is a lot like the flu and just like the flu some people are able to escape it while others seem to keep catching it. But is infidelity really like the flu? Are there factors that predispose you to infidelity? Strange as that question may be; I think that there are things that work in you to make you inclined to infidelity and these are.

1. Your passions. This is the natural attraction that you have for members of the opposite sex and contrary to what we wish this attraction does not go away just because we have made a commitment to someone. And as long as you are alive there will continue to be people who you will be attracted too.

There is an African saying "the beautiful ones are not yet born" that adequately points out that there is a never ending supply of beautiful people. So if you are ruled by what you see and feel then you will never be able to stay faithful as the supply of beautiful people will never dry out. That's why fidelity must be a commitment that you make at the start of your relationship and a choice that you make every day. Many of us have no problem making the commitment at the start of the relationship.

 The daily choice to fidelity is the challenge since it tends to be influenced greatly by how we feel and our minutest on that particular day. And if we are unhappy with our partner or bored with them then that daily choice gets harder to make. And if you go through consecutive days of unhappiness or boredom then the daily resolve to fidelity gets even more weakened. If you want to stay true to your partner then you must ensure that your keep your daily resolve high by dealing with anything that weakens it. If you are unhappy or bored with your partner then you need to deal with the source of that as a matter of urgency. You cannot afford to have that attitude if you want to remain true to your partner.

2. Other people. We like this one don't we? Someone to blame for our weakness... but in this case it is true.

You may be going on with your life (minding your own business) and someone else gets attracted to you, by no fault of yours. You may politely decline their suggestion but some can be very persistent and if your daily resolve is not as strong as it should be then they can wear you down especially if they offer you what you feel your partner is not giving you. In some cases these can be people in power over us or people we interact with on a daily basis and resisting their advances takes a strong resolve born by a strong relationship.

3. The world. Think about this before you dismiss it outright. What information is bombarding you? Celebrity couples breaking up because of infidelity? Statistics on how rare fidelity is? Popular songs on cheating and how good it feels? If this is what you are taking in daily then it must have an effect on you and this effect is to weaken your commitment and daily resolve. You begin to give yourself room to cheat because if all these people are falling why would you be different? If it feels so good why are you denying yourself this joy?

If you are struggling with fidelity then honestly evaluate yourself and identify which factor or factors are influencing you and inclining you to infidelity. And find practical ways to reduce the influence of this factor or factors.

If you want to keep your relationship exciting so that your resolve remains high then I highly recommend these practical principles but if you need to know your partner better so that you know how to keep things exciting then I recommend these questions for you to share as a couple.